Life skills

Two young women are sat together at a table, both looking at a document that is on the table.

I met some great people, I made some good friendships. All these little tips, these little tricks, just to help you budget. I learned more and more about saving money. 

Kieron, who attended his local church’s life skills group 
Learn practical tools to help you live well on a low income every day. 

Life skills is a friendly group that will give you the confidence and decision-making skills needed to live on a low income. You’ll learn practical money saving techniques, such as cooking on a budget and making money go further.

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What to expect from the group

We know that when it comes to saving money and making lifestyle changes, there’s so much we can learn from each other. Everyone finds dealing with the pressures of life a stressful and lonely challenge at times. That’s why life skills is designed to be a fun and relaxed place where you’ll meet other people in similar situations, who understand you and can encourage you.

Life skills is an eight-session course to help you navigate life on a low income. We’ll also give you top tips for dealing with life’s pressures and helping you take control of your future. These sessions happen in a relaxed environment with a mixture of practical activities and informal discussions.

Knowing exactly where your money is coming from and where it’s going each month can be a challenge. You’ll have the opportunity to benefit from informal one-to-one support from a trained coach, who will help you to think through your spending choices and work towards creating a simple budget. This will help you gain better control over your money and lighten the pressures money can bring.

Kieron’s story

Hear how Kieron’s life changed for the better after attending a life skills group

Kieron: My name’s Kieron. I’m married to Tess, and we live in Bolton, and we have five children.

Money was tight because I was a survivor of an abusive marriage. It was emotionally abusive. After a while, the marriage broke down. Our car had been repossessed. The house had been – we’d been evicted from our house. She’d moved out. I was hugely in debt with Council Tax, with the water, with rent and I had nothing. I’ve tried to pay it back, but it’s just so much I couldn’t afford it. So I fell into arrears, I got CCJs (County Court Judgements) and life just got harder. I had no money. Then when I met Tess, I was still in financial ruin. Most of it is all my fault. It’s not Tess’ financial problem, it’s mine. But she took me anyway, and we got married anyway.

We came to the grocery — we parked up outside the grocery, and I remember sitting in the car thinking: Here we go. They’re going to be really judge‑y. They’re going to look down their nose at me and we’re going to just want to get in and out as fast as I can.’

Sarajayne: Hi, I’m Sarajayne and I’m the Life Skills Manager here at Kings Church, Bolton. When I first met Kieron, and Tess, he came across straight away as angry and quite shy and didn’t really make eye contact with us.

Kieron: And as soon as we met Sarajayne, she was lovely. She started talking, very approachable, very bubbly, very chatty. Wanted to talk to – about us. It wasn’t about her, it was about us, and she genuinely felt interested. We felt like she wanted to know. And it was just nice to feel like we were welcome. There was no judgement there. There was no, Oh here they go, someone else with no money’, you know? It was just a really pleasant experience that left a lasting mark – when we left, they made us come back the next week, and then the next one and the next one. And then ultimately led to life skills which led to church, so.

When my wife was on the life skills course she would come back every week and she would talk about what they talked about. All these little tips, these little tricks, just to help you budget, help you save money. So, the next time they did life skills, I signed up, and again, it was great. I met some great people, I made some good friendships. I learned more and more about saving money.

I wouldn’t say I didn’t believe in Jesus, I wouldn’t say I didn’t believe in God, because I believed enough in God to blame him for everything bad that happened. So as I grew up, I had a career as a professional football coach that was ended due to injury. That was God’s fault. And then later on in life, I was a survivor of an abusive marriage, which was God’s fault. I then lost everything, ended up living at my parents’ house, which was also God’s fault. 

During the life skills, I finally built up the courage to maybe try church. It was an idea. So, eventually, my wife dragged me and said: We’re going this Sunday. Come on.’ Then we met the welcome team who made us feel very welcome. And from then on it was great, we went into the service, there was music. There was nothing like my preconceived idea of church. It was a huge celebration of worship, it was fabulous. And from then it was like: Yes, we’re going to come back next week. This is wonderful.’

I saw everyone having this wonderful time and I thought: That’s the only thing that’s different. They’ve accepted Jesus, and I haven’t. So that must be the key’. So, after one service, they asked if anyone wanted to accept Jesus, raise their hand, and I raised my hand, and that was it.

Sarajayne: On the Sunday morning that Kieron actually gave his life to Christ, I had the privilege of being there watching him put his hand up. He put his hand up and you could see the tears in his eyes. It’s like he’d just realised that you could just say to God, You can be my friend and come into my life.’

Kieron: It was real now, Jesus was part of my life. It was real. Jesus died for me like he did everyone else. And he’s now making my life better. From that moment on, all the little issues in our life started to fix themselves. I can sleep at night without the worries that I used to have because things are just fixing themselves, it’s just slowly but surely, bit by bit. And it’s all down to the life skills. The life skills helped us financially and then led me to church. It led me to Jesus.

Questions

Life skills is an eight-week group that will equip you with tools such as how to eat well on a budget, and how to make your money go further. You’ll meet with a group of like minded people and learn practical skills from our trained coaches – and have some fun along the way!

Absolutely nothing – our life skills courses are completely free.

Not at all – our services are for everyone. We’re a charity that is passionate about helping people from all ages, backgrounds, ethnicities and faiths.

If you think a life skills could be perfect for a loved one, use our postcode search to find your local life skills group. If there is one nearby, your loved one will need to get in touch themselves.

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